They are fragile and dainty in appearance, unlike the feisty woman who wore them.

I have now in my possession two letter pins: An “R” and an “S”, but also an “S” and an “R”. Each letter is curling and elegant; not quite cursive, but fancy enough to evoke visions of a wedding invitation or wax seal. The pins are crafted from a material silver in color and adorned with 36 and 23 clear gemstones, respectively. Each pin is just under 1 ½ inches in height and around ¾ of an inch across at it’s widest point, with a clasp and a sharp pin closure residing on the back.

Ray Goldstein was born in the Bronx, NY in 1921. At age 18, she married Connecticut-born Irving Shapiro and became Mrs. Ray Shapiro—the strong, stubborn woman I knew growing up Her parents, Anna Rosegar and Samuel Goldstein, a tailor, were both from Vladavostak, Russia. Out of their 12 children, only 6 survived past infancy. My great grandmother was the youngest of all of them—their “little ray of sunshine”. She always hated the name. She thought it made her sound weak, although she still used it for her entire life. When she was growing up, children didn’t ask for things. They didn’t say, “I want this, I want that.” I was always impressed with how fiercely she advocated for herself and the people she loved once she was grown up.
Ray grew up in Manhattan, going to school and Hebrew school. Up until the end of her life, she always loved learning new things. As a teenager, she enjoyed learning about all different subjects, and especially liked reading books. In a phone interview with my sister back in 2015, she said, “I liked to be around smart people. They have a saying, I’ll tell it to you now. If you go around smart people, you become smart. If you go around people who don’t care, you become stupid! So if someone wasn’t smart, like a new girl or someone, I’d say hi and be nice to them, but I wouldn’t be their friend. You know why it’s not good to be around people who don’t care?” My sister filled in the blank here with a, “Because then you won’t care?” to which our great grandma replied, “That’s right. And then you won’t do well in school.” She was brilliant, and carefully curated her social circle. Even well into her 90’s, she stayed sharp and did not miss a thing. When she was still a teenager, she graduated high school, got married, and started working. I can only imagine how many degrees she would have earned if she were alive today.
I do not know much else about her childhood. She was always very present in the moment, rather than reflecting on her history. She either didn’t know, or would not talk about any unpleasant things. From the few puzzle pieces I have been able to scrape together, I know she had a tough time growing up as the youngest child in a poor family. She did not have many material possessions to call her own growing up, so she began hoarding everything from her extensive teddy bear collection to extra tissue boxes stored away under her mattress. My family always talked about how Morris Shapiro—Irving’s brother—was like a brother to Ray, too. Morris was a Staff Seargent with the 381st Bomber Group of the US Army Air Force, and it hit the couple hard when he was killed in action on January 21st, 1945. Irving fought as a member of the US Navy who participated in the D-Day landings at Normandy. He was wounded while making a landing at Omaha Beach, and again while he was fighting in the Pacific Theatre. He later received two Purple Hearts to commemorate his bravery.

As a woman, much of her life seemed to be defined by the men in her life. Most of the documentation we do have is mostly about the men who fought in the war rather than the wives who stayed behind. In the 1950s, she was a Clerical Worker in the Jewelry Manufacturing Industry. By the 1960s, she worked at the Empire State building in some sort of secretary or administrative position, possibly book keeping for an insurance company. We think she got the pins around this time. Throughout her life, she was always very fashionable and put together. It was too expensive to keep up with fleeting trends, but she created a wardrobe of timeless classics that would never go out of style. I have memories of her adorned in matching jewelry sets and colorful, fitted blazers. And, of course, her signature coral-undertone pink lipstick. Ray would never leave the house not looking her best, because you never know who you are going to run into. Much like her own physical presentation, she liked to keep her things nice and neat. Her storage bags were very put together and presentable, showing how observant and detail-oriented she was. These pins act as a synecdoche for her extensive collection of pins and brooches.
After 97 brash and stubborn years, Ray passed away.
We cleaned out her apartment in the stale New Jersey resident’s facility. Her tchotchkes had been attempting to fit in with the extremely Jewish community there, and I somehow know that they appreciated the change of scenery when they were passed down to her daughter, Eileen. While she was still alive, Ray worked hard to make sure her only daughter was successful. She signed her up for dance classes and elocution lessons so that she could express herself and be successful. My great grandmother was far from nurturing, but she still wanted to provide for her family.
Eileen Shapiro Rolnick had the collection for a few years. I don’t know for certain if she did anything with the pins, dangling necklaces, or showy clip-on earrings, but I would be surprised if she did. My grandma never really got along with her mom and doesn’t like to talk about her very much. Eileen does enjoy jewelry making and other artistic pursuits, but it is clear from her creations how drastically her and Ray’s styles differ. Her late husband, my dad’s dad, was named Stan Rolnick. This “S” is part of the reason my name starts with an “S”, and is important on both side’s of my father’s family tree.
After a few years of collecting dust, my grandma passed on the collection to my Aunt Elissa Sherry Rolnick, so that she and her two daughters—my cousins, Sophia and Julia Cannilla—could go through all of the accessories. They agreed that everything was beautiful, but unpractical in our modern day. With that, they passed on the collection to my parents.
When we dug through the large plastic bin, these pins immediately caught my eye. “S R”. Sky Rolnick. The, flip the order and they are suddenly “R S” for my great grandma Ray Shapiro. My parents believe that she bought these pins herself, although we have no evidence, no paperwork to confirm this. They very well could have been gifts. What I do know, however, is how important these initials have become in the tradition of our family names. Perhaps this is part of the reason why these specific pins have stayed in the family for so long, where others have been given away, gifted, sold, and donated.
Sources:
Alan, Rolnick. Interview. 2023
Eileen, Rolnick. Interview. 2023
Laura, Rolnick. Interview. 2023
Normandy Trip Photo Album. 2008
Rebecca, Rolnick. AP Literature “Sam I Am” Family History Project. 2015
United States of America, Bureau of the Census; Washington, D.C.; Seventeenth Census of the United States, 1950; Record Group: Records of the Bureau of the Census, 1790-2007; Record Group Number: 29; Residence Date: 1950; Home in 1950: New York, Bronx, New